“You should eat less.”
“Why don’t you join a gym?”
“No guy would like to date you.”
— These statements would have haunt me every night. I would look in the mirror and think how ugly do I look. But I am talking about the parellel universe where I would probably be fat.
” You are so thin. Don’t you take proper meals?”— This is what I actually get to hear from my friends and relatives.
I cannot be fat. And I cannot be thin. What exactly am I supposed to be?
I have never understood the concept of body shaming. Does being fat or black or short makes me a less human? We did not fill a form before our birth in which we had an option of choosing whether we want to be fat or thin; black or white; tall or short.
If my parents decide to arrange my marriage, they would find a groom who is genuine, who earns well and who has a good family background. In addition, they would also look for certain traits like he shall be tall and as fair as me.
But what if I decide to marry a man who is short, or fat, or not so fair? Won’t I be happy? Would it not matter if he is loving and caring and respectful and is well settled in life? Wouldn’t it fulfill the criteria of being a perfect life partner?
What will I do with his abs, or his 6’2″ height, or his fair skin if he can not love and understand me. In this case, people shall understand that I am looking for a groom not a model for a photoshoot of some magazine who has some set standards of being beautiful.
(I am not actually looking for a groom. :p )
According to me, there is no perfect definition of ‘ Being Beautiful.’ Your appearance would not determine your worth.
Po (from Kung fu panda movie) was cute. He was fat yet he became the dragon warrior and the teacher too (in 3rd part).
If being fat was a matter of embarrasment and an obstacle, then the snake would have become the dragon warrior.
June 4, 2016 at 11:56 pm
Poignant post! Insightful & liberating. Loved it.💛💫
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June 5, 2016 at 8:23 am
Thank you.. 😊
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June 5, 2016 at 12:06 am
Indeed!
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June 5, 2016 at 8:25 am
😊 😊
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June 6, 2016 at 12:42 pm
Appearances are deceptive…what matters is inner beauty…
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June 6, 2016 at 5:54 pm
Yes..u r correct..
We both have same thinking ..right? 😹 😹 😹
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June 7, 2016 at 12:54 pm
Yeah…we have….But I never understood the reason behind people being like this…
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June 11, 2016 at 2:07 pm
this is the mechanism of this world
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June 13, 2016 at 5:48 am
Hmm
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June 12, 2016 at 8:01 pm
Yes be your kind of beautiful. Lovely post. Thanks for visiting me, following me and liking. You have a nice little blog here.
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June 12, 2016 at 8:09 pm
Thank you 😊
I m still a learner
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June 12, 2016 at 8:10 pm
I am still new to blogging – it is fun and hard at the same time. But the word press community is lovely
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June 12, 2016 at 8:12 pm
Yes you are right.
There are lovely peopleand each one shares his/her knowledge, experiences and most importantly, the thoughts.
Plus I keep reading the inspirational things here…it helps me being positive 🙂
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October 15, 2016 at 8:26 am
It is a wonderful community.No one judges anyone and everyone accepts each other.
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October 15, 2016 at 5:32 pm
Yes, indeed it is! 😊
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June 13, 2016 at 8:57 pm
Interesting, because I was just thinking today about how I always used to think I was fat when I was a young woman, yet looking back at my photos I looked great! There was a period when I was heavier than I should have been, then I lost a lot of weight, yet I still always “felt fat.” Now I wish I had that slim, youthful body again and that I had appreciated it and enjoyed it more while I had it! We are all so self-critical.
I do think, though, that it is a matter of self-respect and respect for what God created us to be, to take as good care of ourselves as we can — at any age. We might not look like supermodels, but there is nothing wrong with looking the best you can and being well-groomed and healthy. In fact, I think it’s important to take care of the outer body as well as the inner. When it becomes a problem is when we make our outward appearance the ONLY thing that matters, or the most important thing. Like anything else in life, moderation is the key!
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June 13, 2016 at 10:37 pm
Yes Gloria, you are right. We shall take care if our body and shall take every possible step to groom your personality…because if you’re u look good, you feel good.
But one shall not be ashamed of whatever he has been gifted by god. And we shall never judge a person for being black. People in many parts of the world are still fighting racism.
The beauty is being confident and proud of oneself.
Thank you 🙂
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June 15, 2016 at 8:43 am
Oh, you write well.
I like it 🙂
Once again a nice read..
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June 18, 2016 at 2:33 pm
Thank you sonu..
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September 11, 2016 at 8:32 pm
Been checking out different post today and came across yours. Enjoyed reading. Check mine out when you get the chance 🙂
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September 11, 2016 at 8:38 pm
Thank you for checking my posts! 😊
You too have a nice blog.
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October 15, 2016 at 8:25 am
Thanks I needed to hear that.Im obese.I weigh 200+ pounds.And body shaming is something I have to go through every single day of my life.I just want to be happy.
Have a look at my blog?I write poems and short passages.I wrote a poem about a girl who is obese and her feelings.Would mean a lot if u took the time to check out some of my work an left some feedback!Please?
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October 15, 2016 at 5:34 pm
Thank-you for reading my post😊
God bless you! And stay happy!
Don’t bother yourself for what others think about you.
And I will surely check your blog! Thank you!
Have a good day!
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October 15, 2016 at 6:21 pm
Thanks for checking out my blog
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October 15, 2016 at 7:28 pm
My pleasure! 😊
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October 15, 2016 at 6:21 pm
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November 26, 2016 at 2:28 pm
I loved the way you used Po here ☺ and yes that happens to me a lot. I am fat and some bitchy aunties come over my house to meet my mom and give me suggestions not to eat whole day bcz i am too fat and won’t be able to get married…
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November 26, 2016 at 2:31 pm
😂😂😂😂
Next times those aunts come to your home, tell them, that a girl needs a groom to marry, not a zero figure 😂😂
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